Holding a grudge against someone is something we’ve all done. Even celebrities like Shah Rukh Khan and Salman Khan have gone through it. The two Khans who rule the box office finally patched up last year after almost 7 years of keeping out of each other’s paths because of a spat they had some years back. When they finally kissed and made up last year, it was a big relief for the entire film industry, and am sure it was a relief for both of them too.
When someone lies to us, betrays us says something mean or does us harm, we hold that grudge or negativity against them. We can hold this negativity our entire lives but what good will it do to us? None! Instead it harms us more than benefiting us. All the grudge and negativity we hold inside us only causes us problems and prevents us from forming better connections and also prevents us from letting go and the worst is that it impacts our mental and physical health.
While it’s human to have grudges, it brings out the worst in you and makes you miserable. So the smart thing to do is get rid of those grudges. Here’s how you can do it
1. Get it out
Be open about it, confront the person. Clear it out; tell them exactly how you feel in a calm way. Explain things to them and finish it there. After that don’t think about it , just move on with a clear mind and a clear heart.
2. Write it out
If you are not the one who likes to confront and argue, the next best thing is to write a letter to yourself about the whole thing. Write it all just for yourself, about what affected you, who offended you, why you did not like it etc. After that just rip it all apart and release those negative feelings about the person and situation. Just release those feelings and say toyourself; “I am done with that!” and let it go.
3. Have compassion for yourself; Forgive
While forgiving someone who has hurt you is easier said than done, it’s the best thing to do. Not letting it go costs you more than letting it go, so have compassion for yourself, don’t have the grudge brewing inside of you anymore or be consumed with anger. Let go, be free, forgive and forget.
