As positively as some friends impact you, some just take away the happiness from you. If instead of feeling uplifted and peaceful, you end up feeling stressed or unhappy after meeting a friend – we have a problem. It is difficult to recognize a toxic friend because you don’t want to give out negative labels, but when it starts to hamper you, you have to take appropriate steps. Here’s how to get rid of a toxic friend:
Recognize Them
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If you have to walk on eggshells around a person worrying they’ll lash out at any moment because of your actions or omissions thereof, that’s a sign. If you have a friend who interferes excessively in your life when you don’t want them to, that is toxic too. On the other hand, when you have a friend who only blesses you with special appearances in their times of need, that is something you should note. There are some friendships that fail to translate into better relationships but none should cost you your inner peace. If they don’t come through ever, you should know that it is another form of toxicity.
A healthy friendship is a two-way street.
Is It Worth A Conversation?
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The second step will be to decide if that friendship is worth saving? If you think that sitting down and talking it out will solve your problems, then go for it. Address exactly what bothers you about their behavior. Try to explain how it affects you and if you can remind them of certain instances where they’ve done something to upset you gravely, it’ll be very helpful. However, there are some friendships that need to be done away with. Some people have a personality that just brings you down even if they’ve done nothing. Know what you need to keep yourself sane and put yourself first.
Cut. The. Cord.
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Gradually or immediately, it’s your call. Patience is a good response to negativity, but only up to a point. When the time comes, you have to burn a bridge. When a friend only finds opportunities to insult you and poke holes in your confident armor, that person needs to go. Do not let anyone take harbor in your life, who does not even make it a better place. Stand up for yourself and stop all contact immediately. If it’s not working, it’s just not working. Communicate your intentions transparently while cutting ties with them so there is no way they will misunderstand you. Be courteous, at the very least.
No friendship should be so taxing that you end up coming out exhausted every time you see them. If it doesn’t help you evolve, it doesn’t belong. Friendships are meant to be pleasant and good friends bring out the best in you. Do not settle for anything less.
