You might be a big fan of F.R.I.E.N.D.S and living life like the characters in it would be surreal now, wouldn’t it? But there’s one thing we bet you wouldn’t want to go through IRL. Imagine having the Ross-Rachel relationship in your life whilst juggling with a million of other issues that the 21st century brought with it.
You Still “Hang Out”
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Are you and your supposed ex still catching movies and coffee dates and continuing your Netflix binge because “we can still be friends”, right? Truth be told, don’t fool yourselves. Define your line and don’t cross it. If all you want is a break from the ties of the relationship and not the person itself, maybe you should make that clear. As unique as your feelings towards your ex-or-not might be, you have all the rights to have them because each relationship dynamic is unique and we are nobody to judge. Be communicative about your comfort levels and do not fall for false dictums like ‘we are on a break’.
You Still “Check Their Last Seen”
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Nobody said that the feeling of attachment disappears with the label of a relationship. Detachment doesn’t set in that easily. So if you find yourself checking (stalking) their social media like crazy and checking their location on the Snap Map, it is normal. Having said that, all of us from the other side of this phase would strongly recommend stopping yourself at this stage! It is nothing but a habit you can’t seem to break. It is natural to be anxious about their activities now that you guys aren’t exclusive, but don’t drive yourself crazy.
You Are Insecure About Their Latest Dating Spree
Honestly, if that is the case, you should be open about your feelings towards them. However, consider doing so without creating more confusion for your ex-or-not. If you are on a break it means that they are free to see other people. It is safe to assume that they are aware that the news of them seeing other people may or may not affect you and their actions are well informed. Just so we’re clear, save yourself from creating a scene if you decide to pick a fight because you’re upset about your ex-or-not’s dating life. Again, communication is the key.
You Have Those Distant Plans Of Togetherness.
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While you’re on a break, are you still planning your near and future events keeping your ex-or-not and their scheduled plans in mind? It is good to know that a break might not actually convert into a break up, but putting your life on hold for a probable unison is not the wisest thing to do. Go on, live your life only keeping your happiness and goals in mind. The ex-or-not’s goals are best kept out of the frame while you guys aren’t together till you are together.
How Did “The Break” Ensue?
Was it over a heated fight? Was it discussed at length and decided after mutual agreement? Are you both on the same page about the definition of this break? Is there a time limit on this break? What is the probability of this ‘break’ converting into a ‘break-up’ in both of your heads? It’s best to be clear about these few factors before you decide to declare your newly-found maybe-singledom to the world.
Taking a break from any relationship is not the wisest thing to do, but sometimes it becomes necessary. Your relationship experience is unique to you and you know what’s best for you. So, do not be scared of being judged and do what needs to be done. Just make sure you really know what you are doing!
