Is your friendship up for competition? If not, I really don’t understand the tag of “best friends”. I think there are just friends and those who are not. We need to clear out two things here. One, we must stop using the word friends for every person we meet. Introduce yourself with the concept of an “acquaintance”. Two, there’s no need for the tag of best friends. Every friendship in your life has its own relationship dynamics and serves a unique purpose in your life. No friend can replace another. There are no bests. There are just friends. So, if you are someone who has no answer to the question “So, who is your BFF?” you are doing just fine. Don’t worry about it!
Friends Come And Go
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Over a period of time, you will have multiple *best friends*. This means, the concept of best friend is in itself flawed! Friends come and go. You make A LOT of friends throughout the growing up process. You have different friends for different purposes. You cannot afford to have one best friend and accept them to everything for you. That’s just not feasible. Today, everybody enjoys a friendship of convenience. Everybody makes new friends at every new level or phase of their lives. So if you do not have that one constant best friend, do not doubt yourself. You are just moving with the flow of your life and you are allowed to do that.
The Tag Does More Harm Than Good
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When you give any friendship a certain tag, you taint that friendship forever. Along with the tag comes a certain set of expectations. Also, it is not necessary that the other person gives the same label to your friendship. This gives way to another web of confusion and disappointments. Your best friend calls somebody else their best friend, and their best friend is a best friend of someone else totally. Such a situation can be emotionally hurting and the only way of avoiding this mess is NOT GIVING A TAG TO YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
There Is No BEST INVESMENT
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Friendships are a lot like investments. You spend the most valuable elements of your life in it- time and love. If you think about it, we never ever spend all our money in any one investment. We are always suggested against it. Monetary investments do not come with emotional baggage, friendships do. So, when you start rating your friendships, you actually make yourself emotionally vulnerable.
Friendships are a very important aspect of our life and our lifestyle. It has a special purpose and it cannot be fulfilled by anything else. But, that doesn’t mean we let our life revolve around it. Like everything else, it has its own place in our lives. Beyond that, you must learn to carry on with your life all by yourself. It’s your journey and you will keep making friends as you go. Do not unnecessarily hype one particular investment that it comes back to bite you.
Yours truly,
Investment Advisor 😛
