Dating has never been as easy with Tinder and Okcupid. But it has also never been as difficult with people being ghosted and zombied.
If you date suddenly disappears without any communication, you have been ghosted. Then when he suddenly wants to get back together, without any reason, and repeats his magic trick of vanishing, you have been zombied.
Another new form of toxic dating on the block is “Stashing”. This happens when your date stashes you away from their public life like a dirty little secret. They are reaping the benefits of the relationship without acknowledging your relationship to the world. If you feel you are being stashed, talk about it to your partner and resolve it or move on to somebody better who will take pride in you.
A necessary sign of healthy relationship is that your partner is proud of you, and cannot stop telling the world about how happy they are with you. So, say no to being stashed.
Also beware of other signs of toxic relationships. If your partner responds in a passive-aggressive way, blames you for every mess-up and criticizes you for everything, you may be enslaved in a toxic relationship. If one partner blames the other for their failure, but parties with other friends when they get a promotion, it just means that they do not really nurture the bond with you.
You may be investing all your energy and emotions into making the person happy, while they lap up all the attention with no returns on your investment. This is a sign that you deserve better.
Dating can be difficult. Meeting the right person can be more difficult. But it happens easily when you actually meet the right person. The only resolution to such problems is respecting yourself enough to know that you deserve better.
So click your heels and straighten your ties. Say bye to the potential ghoster in your relationship. And move on.
