The most difficult of all is a breakup in a relationship, it’s like two sides of a coin. The inseparables are now intolerable. They cannot take each other anymore. There are sudden changes in the dynamics. But this void can make us do dumbest things like contacting exes, acting irrational, stalking exes on social media, comparing with his/ her current bae. Don’t give any closure to your exes. I would say rather use this time for self-analyzing. Make peace with your inner self. Spend time with yourself don’t jump on to another relationship immediately; take some time. And never ever degrade yourself or blame your partner. There are more productive ways to get over a relationship smoothly but today I’m writing about what are the don’ts after breakup. So I will stick on to it.
Backbiting about exes in common friends
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It’s often seen that couples who are head over heels in love with each other dramatically change their perspectives about each other after breakup. They go about discussing secrets about their exes and pacify their anger. It’s always a good idea to let the secrets and nasty things be between you both; it just shows that how untrustworthy you are.
Discussing bedroom secrets
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He/ she likes this to be done this way; that’s his/ her weakness; this excites him/ her. The agenda of the person discussing such intimate secrets is quite obvious it’s to malign the person’s reputation; but let me tell you it’s the stupidest idea. Its morally incorrect I would say, those were the private moments and they shouldn’t be revealed publically.
Making quick and impulsive decisions
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Going on a hunt for a replacement immediately, constantly surfing dating sites, approaching singles, stalking exes and their friends, flirting with anybody available, this all is going to put you in the same situation soon. All these ideas are the dumbest; LOL! Your ex is your ex for some reason don’t ever forget that.
Blame games
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Its well-played! Blame games are common, we could have done better; had he/ she done this or not done this, she/ he used to nag constantly, she/ he didn’t make efforts. Gone is gone, and it’s nowhere; how’s blame game going to help you anyhow? I would say make it a point to talk less about them anymore. MOVE ON!
Being self-destructive
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A heartbreak is equal to a heart attack, ask any lover! Constant feeling of loneliness, emptiness, memories flashback, and the most painful is going to bed without his/ her texts or calls, and waking up without them. Everything’s seems to be tasteless during this period many people have thoughts of self-destruction, as if it’s the end of the world. Don’t ever let such thoughts breed on your mind; its worthless. Just GO out and have FUN!
Isolating yourself
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Eventually we start isolating ourselves for various reasons; maybe when you see other couples having a great time, it reminds you of them. Maybe some places remind you of them. Or you are feeling awkward to face your friends as you were boasting about how your relationship is magical the last time you met. Nothing holds weight as long as you react to it, shit happens with us all, this is life. After the moment of embarrassment is gone; charge up and take on your life, don’t shy away for too long!
Posting about it on social media
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That’s actually the dumbest thing most of us do. Now that you are deeply hurt and maybe want your friends’ and exes to know that you are no longer committed, and want to show how deeply and badly it has affected you, so you put it on your social account. But I personally feel not all emotions are meant to be advertised. Won’t it be embarrassing if you find somebody special again and he goes through your profiles, he may just judge you on that basis and he may jump to a conclusion that you can’t handle the lows of life very well.
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Breakup is just a phase not end of the world. Acting irrationally after breakup may give a chance for your company of friends to pass judgements about you; so it’s a wise idea to avoid those above things mentioned as they are the commonest things most of us do unknowingly or maybe on purpose. Crying over old photos, going through old texts are the commonest though; just delete them and let it vanish; not only from your mobile but from your memories as well. I hope you all get over your breakups soon and find new love of your life at the right time. There’s plenty of love in this world don’t waste time on taking revenges and stop dwelling over past. “To love is a feeling; but to be loved is a blessing”!
