You have probably seen at least one of your social media friends show off that ‘her boyfriend is a feminist’. Yes, it is something to be proud of! Because it’s always great to know that your partner is with you in the fight. That even after all the internalized and inherited problematic beliefs, your boyfriend is doing everything he can to not perpetuate those norms. And that can be the best way of showing love.
Since the conversation on misogyny and feminism has been at its most explosive from recently, let us take a look at what it takes to be feminist boyfriend!
He Gives Your Career An Equal Importance
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A feminist boyfriend would take your career as seriously as he takes his. He wouldn’t be intimidated if you happen to earn more than him. He would not actively enable the gender pay gap by his actions or thoughts. He understands that men have it easier when it comes to building a career in this unfair world. He would consider your career goals on the same level as his before making life-changing decisions.
Does Not Support Gender Roles
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Gender roles are perhaps the most internalized evil of our society. In fact, most of us believe that they exist for good. But if your boyfriend is a feminist, he would beg to differ. He will share the household burdens if you are living together. He will share the bill if you are both earning equally. You guys would cook together, every once in a while. Your feminist boyfriend will treat you like a lady but not impose a role on you or take away your choice of taking up one.
Discuss Everything With You. Everything!
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We have all heard of the “men talk”. Or the “Ladies talk”. Well, your feminist boyfriend would know that neither exists. Both of you are equally capable of taking part in and contributing to any discussion or debate. Be it a kitchen recipe, or political news, or an intellectual argument. This boyfriend of yours would discuss everything with you and often indulge in intellectual debates.
He Is Considerate And Sympathetic About Birth Control
Your boyfriend wouldn’t be awkward or scared of bringing up the conversation of birth control. He would be a great listener and respect how if things go south, you have to face the repercussions alone. He would discuss different options with you and make sure you are comfortable with what you have chosen to use. He would say he is sorry that no male contraceptives exist, as of now. And he would for sure Split the cost of contraceptives.
He Cares For Your Sexual Well-Being And Pleasure
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He will always ask your permission before doing it. He will take care that you both actually want the same thing. He will also be thoughtful of your sexual health. He will buy your choice of period kit for you and always be open to a conversation related to your sexual well being without being awkward.
Secondly and most importantly, he will know or try to know what works for you on the bed. He actually loves providing female pleasure and doesn’t mind taking directions.
I know! A feminist boyfriend is a sure shot turn on! What more could one ask for?
