They say that in love what is yours will always remain yours and if it was not meant to be yours then it will not stay forever. So if he loves being in relationship with you it won’t change. But what happens is as we grow fonder of somebody we tend to feel jealous every time we feel his attention is being shared. It’s a problem with most of the couples; either he has a close girl best friend or vice versa. There are a few things to realize before feeling jealous about their friendship; if you understand that, then I am sure you will not feel jealous the next time. Here’s what you can do to overcome jealousy and deal with it.
Never compare yourself with others
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Jealousy is an emotion which is an outcome of inadequacy, lack of self- esteem, anxiety. It’s so mean to compare ourselves with others and question our own capabilities. Just understand that you deserve to be in a relationship with your partner and his friendship doesn’t make any difference to your relationship. He has chosen you, over everybody else so there might have been something unique in you, which he fell for. We are never inferior or superior than anybody else. Everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way. Comparing ourselves with another person is a total insult to ourselves which we should avoid doing.
Respect the personal space of your partner
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Some people think its ok to invade their partner’s privacy as they are the part of their life. Invading a partner’s privacy to a certain limit is okay but if it goes beyond that and you cross that fine line of invading and actually suspecting then it could certainly damage your relationship. Like all other living things on this planet, I personally feel that a relationship also needs oxygen to breathe; oxygen here means positive emotions like love, care, respect, support. If you try to keep it alive on carbon dioxide which here means jealousy, anger, over possessiveness, dominating one another; it’s certainly not going to sustain for long.
Stop getting angry over petty issues
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If you feel awful that your partner gives time to his best friend and discusses things; let me tell you it’s absolutely okay. Everybody of us are comfortable sharing issues with our friends; sometimes it’s also because maybe they are together for a longest time. Imagine having a nagging friend or sibling with you all the time; you need a break from them, right? It’s exactly the same with a nagging partner; nobody would want you around all the time; despite of all the love you have for your partner.
Having trust is important
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Trust is an important essence of every relationship; it’s like a foundation. When you sense that your partner’s attention is getting shared with somebody else other than you; the trust issues pop up. But you need to understand that showing trust and actually having trust towards your partner creates a stronger bond and adds on respect regarding you. If there is no trust the relationship can get shattered. Without trust you won’t trust your partner on something like; even talking on a phone with his best friend. It’s absolutely smothering!
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Every relationship is based on beautiful emotions like love, trust, support, care, respect and affection. If any of this lacks somewhere jealousy and disrespect takes over and relationship is in jeopardy. With a proper mutual understanding and trust between partners; relationship can be fascinating and deserving. Share me your comments on this and let me know your views.
