Partners fight, relationships do not work out, and more often than not it ends in a break up. But it’s not as easy as it sounds right? Sometimes you end up dragging a relationship and carrying it like a burden just because you have no idea how to end it. Knowing how to break up is just as important as knowing those weird dating tips you’ll find EVERYWHERE! So let me take you through this. Just like making up, breaking up involves a complex combination of actions and ideas. Pay attention!
(Although I hope you never have to use these tips! Stay in love!)
DO NOT Choose The Easy Way
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Breaking up is difficult. Hello? It is supposed to be difficult. Do not choose an easy way to do it and disrespect everything the two of you have had until now. To begin with, do it in person! A break over chat or social media is extremely immature and you are an absolute idiot if you do that. Your relationship deserves a respectful and graceful end. Give it that! You both deserve it. Another easy and toxic way is to get your partner to do IT! If YOU feel it’s over, it is YOUR responsibility to communicate that. Do not play the game where you avoid them or behave in a specific manner to make them realize something’s wrong. Again, immature! Plus, its toxic as well as upsetting. Not to forget, people are very observant and rumors tend to spread. You never ever want your partner to hear it from someone else that you intend to break up with them before hearing it from you.
Know The Difference Between Honesty And Brutality
It is best to be straightforward and honest and yet, there is a way of being that. You don’t have to tear apart your to-be-ex in order to break up with them. All you have to be is honest and show a little bit of compassion. Start by tell them why you loved them in the first place. Try to make them feel as comfortable as possible. Tell them what you still like about them. And slowly but eventually, get to the point and explain them what’s wrong. It is important that you be very clear about everything you communicate during this conversation. Now is not the time to leave room for confusion and doubts. They key is in being empathetic and clearly stating the reasons for the break up. Even if there is no reason, explain how exactly you feel about it. You don’t want your partner (to-be-ex) spending time in figuring out what went wrong after you have broken up. That’s just sad!
Listen!
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Be patient, and listen to what your partner has to say! Be prepared to receive any and all kind of reactions from them. Do not be surprised if they start crying or if they get very angry or they just get numb. Every person is allowed to feel and react in a way they choose to. Respect that. And if there’s anything they want to say or ask you, be there for them! You owe them that. They might try to convince you to give this another chance, but you should have made your decision before they do that. If you believe it can be worked out, give it an honest chance. But if you are sure about your decision, stick to it regardless of what your now-ex says.
Always keep your close friends and family in the loop during the process. You will have to through this alone but that doesn’t mean you are alone. And don’t forget, what you are doing is in the best interests of everyone involved.
