Before we start talking about the main subject, read this True story first!
They met, immediately clicked and realized they hadn’t smiled and laughed so much ever as when they would be talking to each other. And how much did they talk?
Soon they were THE couple, madly in love, holding hands, secret eye codes, not interested in anyone else anymore, and so compatible. It looked too good to be true.
And maybe it was.
Soon the green monster took over, and the conversations turned ugly, angry, abusive and heated. From checking about whereabouts to doubting the other and accusing, the love was somehow disappearing, even though they continued to be with each other the same way.
One would cry and listen and surrender, the other would dominate and shout then come back with apologies, and they would be back again.
But for how long? Could they last like this forever? Was this fair? And was this love?
If you want to know whether anger can destroy a relationship, the answer is probably NO. When you are angry at your partner for something, it means their behaviour affects you in some way, and that is because you care. When you stop being angry, you almost stop caring as well.
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But when anger mixes with aggression and the two take over a relationship, it may be time to raise the red flag.
How to control the anger
Whether it is you or your partner who is facing this issue, try and do the following
- Pause as soon as you feel your temper flaring. You will almost always be able to identify the first signs of anger and aggression. Wait and don’t react. Instead, move away for a while and do something else.
- Take some time and space off from your partner and let things cool down.
- Talk about it with your partner when you are calmer. Speak about what triggers your behaviour and see if your partner can help.
- Speaking to a professional and seeking couple therapy can help release steam.
- Do activities together that will bring you closer and facilitate trust.
- Keep yourself occupied with other things that make you happy, instead of over-thinking or obsessing about the relationship.
And yes, instead of hurling abuses and punches at each other, why not use your anger in a better way? Time for some hot make-up sex maybe?
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